Peter's First Movie

I will never forget the first time I watched The Sound of Music. I believe I was about eight years old and we were on our annual two week vacation in Delray Beach at Grandma & Grandpa's house. Although we had quite a library of movies at home, for some reason my parents left out this gem. (Not on purpose, but my guess is probably because it was never playing on TV or owned by a family member for them to record illegally. Thankfully, they don't do that anymore.) I distinctly remember sitting on Grandpa & Grandma's bed and marveling at the delightful story. I was thrilled. And I still love that movie dearly to this day.

A few weeks ago, at less than three months old, Peter watched his first movie: The Sound of Music. He was fussy, and I was out of ideas. I pulled the swing up to the TV, and Maria started serenading him with "The Hills are Alive with the Sound of Music." While he was entertained enough to stop fussing, he did fall asleep about two minutes later.

push-ups

Peter has gotten so strong. This evening I was amazed when I put him on his tummy and he pushed himself up, looking around the room eagerly. I guess it had been a few days since I put him on his tummy! He's figured out how to get his fist to his mouth over the past couple of weeks, and even manages to get his thumb in his mouth sometimes. He's also smiling more and more.

This weekend we enjoyed a visit from Dad Mann & Grammy. We met them in Lexington. We had a great time there, touring the town, despite quite a bit of rain. There was plenty of old architecture to admire and we took a tour of Stonewall Jackson's house. We also enjoyed lunch at a cute little bakery, Sweet Treats, just off main street. I had a gyro.

Peter is sleeping better in his crib (actually a Pack-N-Play) now. He's regularly taking naps there and getting onto a better schedule during the day.

Today he took a pacifier just for the sake of taking a pacifier. Previously we've only been able to "sneak" it into his mouth when he's half asleep.

playing peek-a-boo and first laugh

So many times since Peter was born I have wanted to jump on this website and record some "milestone" moments. But the fact that there is a huge gap from when my hands started to go numb during the pregnancy up to this point has kept me away. However, today I decided that I'll have to fill in the gaps later because too many wonderful things are happening with little Peter to not record them here--this is better than any baby book!

Yesterday Peter and I played peek-a-boo for the first time. I'm not sure if he really understood the entire concept, but I do know that every time I pulled the flannel diaper wipe (yes, it was clean) away from my face and said "PEEK-A-BOO," I could elicit a big smile. Since then I've been able to get some smiles out with peek-a-boo, but I definitely have to have his full attention first. He is starting to get easily distracted. A few things that catch his eye and won't let go: the headboard on the bed and the hutch/bookshelf in the living room. Also the point where the wall meets the ceiling in any room.

And yesterday I heard Peter laugh for the first time. (Thankfully I have recorded the date somewhere on the video camera when he first smiled.) It was late evening and we were standing in the foyer of our apartment building. Peter was very fascinated with the staircase banister. I wish I knew what was so funny, but whatever it was, he was smiling and giggling about it. I love it.

His name is John.

Just kidding! ......We still have to decide on a name. But I was hoping that somebody might see that title and be intrigued to read and perhaps post a name suggestion...

Yesterday I had a "Centering" appointment. I was very thankful that Dustin was able to get off work a little early to meet us at the hospital, where we did a tour. First we watched a video at the doctor's office, which was interesting. Before becoming pregnant and reading about birthing, I had a completely false idea of what pregnancy and birthing was. This video covered the stages of labor. Thankfully, it was not nearly as scary as the last video we watched in class (which covered comfort measures and had a lot of strange women in it making strange noises to "comfort" themselves---which actually made me very uncomfortable). And after going on the hospital tour, I am almost looking forward to the experience. Tammy (one of the three midwives) lead the tour, and after listening to what she had to say, I hope she's the one on call when Baby Mann is born! But actually, they all share a similar philosophy to birthing. I'm so blessed to be able to have a midwife!

One of the things I was most grateful to learn is that they will definitely not push me to get any kind of pain meds or an epidural. In fact, Tammy was even quick to point out all the negative aspects of getting one. At Virginia Baptist Hospital, where Baby Mann will be born, women with an epidural are confined to the bed, must wear baby monitoring hardware continuously, must have an EKG monitor on themselves, and can only have ice chips. Compare that to a natural birth: Can move around freely (which includes use of the in-room whirlpool tub), labor in any position desired, eat and drink freely, and will only have to be bothered by the baby monitoring hardware periodically (except for a 20 minute standard protocol run when you first enter the hospital). And then perhaps the thing I was most excited to hear is that they rarely perform episiotomies and do quite a bit to protect against natural tearing. Tammy said that most women come through "in tact" or with just a few abrasions that do not even require repair. That's encouraging!

Back at the doctor's office, I measured at 30 cm, even though I am 31.5 weeks. Blood pressure was spectacular, and my total weight gain is still within the normal range.

thirty weeks, 6 days

Baby is definitely continuing to grow! I feel a lot more rolls and slow movements now than in the past. He starting to run out of room! And sometimes I see his little head (or bum) sticking out on one side or the other of my tummy. Perhaps he might be a musician; this morning in church he was really rocking and rolling to the worship/praise music.

There's just a few things left to get. A crib. A few more diapers. (I'm waiting for my favorite diaper website to get some more "celery" colored covers in stock before I order.) And get a pediatrician lined up. I'm on the waiting list for Dr. Mumper here in Lynchburg, who came highly recommended. That reminds me I need to call tomorrow to see what the status on that is!

twenty-seven weeks

It's been a long time since posting, and so much has happened! The most notable baby news is probably the two baby showers I've had. The first was thrown by some dear "law-wife" friends, and it included two other first-time "law-wife" moms. We had a blast! So many of us are pregnant right now; we love getting together and talking Baby. Second, I just got home from a visit to Michigan, where Mom and Jenna threw me a baby shower. It was so good to see everyone there, some of whom I had not seen in a long time!

Baby continues to be very active. In fact, some of his movements are sudden and strong and they make me jump from surprise! They must not keep me awake though. Last night I apparently fell asleep pretty quickly (or at least was mostly asleep). Dustin had his hand on my belly since Baby was moving around a bit. All of a sudden Dustin woke me up with an exclamation. Apparently I was falling asleep right through some very strong kicks. I really enjoy feeling the movements and treasure the moments Dustin and I spend talking about and planning for Baby together.

On a side note, I find the size comparisons my pregnancy newsletters utilize quite amusing. This week one noted that the baby is the size of a head of cauliflower. Earlier in the pregnancy, the baby was the size of a kumquat. What in the world does a kumquat look like anyway?

Baby might only be a few pounds right now, but the size comparison they use for my womb is a soccer ball. So of course I'm no longer wearing regular clothing. Or at least, nothing in my normal size. I was very grateful that Mom took me shopping for some maternity clothing while I was in Michigan. I don't think I'd be venturing out of the house much without that very timely birthday present! Thanks, Mom! :)

twenty-four weeks

Last Thursday I had a centering appointment. I'm looking forward to the time we will start covering more interesting subjects other than what we find relaxing or comforting in pregnancy. They are going to bring in a lactation consultant, which I'm grateful for because I was astounded to learn that the hospital does not have one! I also got to hear the baby's heartbeat, which was healthy. And I liked the number on the scale, which showed I've only gained 2 lbs. in two months. (I was wearing heavy clothes and shoes last time though. 2 lbs. is definitely not accurate since my belly has probably doubled in size in that time. Unfortunately, I don't have a scale at home.) I know people can tell I'm pregnant now by the way they stare at my belly (especially little kids).

Friday I attended a Le Leche League meeting. I was thrilled to get the name and number of a Dr. Mumper from the ladies there. This doctor does not push vaccines and has an "alternative" approach to pediatrics. However, I was then disappointed to find that she's not taking new patients right now. They told me to try back in a couple of months, so hopefully I'll be able to get in then! It was a fun meeting, and since the meeting's focus was on nutrition for that day, I actually came away with some ideas I can use even now. Despite all the great know-how being dished out, no one could help me on wondering what to do about having Junior circumcised on the eighth day after birth. It seems that everyone who cares enough about avoiding a too-potent vitamin K shot in the hospital also opted not to have their son circumcised. So I'll just have to keep my fingers crossed that the pediatrician won't mind following the traditional plan (vitamin K peaks on the eighth day).

Junior continues to exercise frequently. In fact, I have found his movements as of late somewhat ticklish! I think he knows I'm writing about him because he just started moving around again. :)

garage sale jack pot

It's amazing the way God provides. On Saturday, I got up early to hit all the baby garage sales. I was finally heading to the last one without anything to show for it, about mid-morning. As I was picking through some clothes, it started to rain, so the lady asked me to make an offer for all the boy stuff there. I managed to pack the trunk of the SUV with baby items for just $35! Check out all the things I picked up (I was so excited I had to count them all when I got home):

-baby swing
-4 blankets
-2 towels
-pacifier clip (with a cute little turtle on it)
-12 hats
-2 wash mits
-6 slippers
-2 shoes
-pair of socks
-hand mits
-12 bibs
-changing pad cover (new in package)
-winter suit
-and 208 pieces of clothing in good condition

WOW!

twenty-two weeks, 4 days

And the research continues! Lately I have been reading all about vaccinations and the great debate surrounding them. On one side, there is traditional medicine, the CDC, and the American Academy of Pediatrics. For them, not to get an infant vaccinated within a few months of birth is mortal sin. If fact, you can be assured that your child will be infected, probably start an epidemic, and possibly die. On the other hand, there is holistic medicine and the parents of children who have been seriously disabled or died from adverse vaccination reactions. While they don't go quite as far as the CDC in stating your child will be adversely affected if you don't line up with their point of view, there are certainly strong feelings and arguments on that side as well. It's quite a maze of information and contradictory "facts" to sort through.

After much reading on the web (and trying to avoid scary video on the AAP site of children dying from infectious diseases), I decided to purchase Vaccinations: A Thoughtful Parent's Guide: How to Make Safe, Sensible Decisions about the Risks, Benefits, and Alternatives by Aviva Jill Romm. Romm's book previews (some pages are missing) are widely available on Google Books and I've been reading snippets here and there. I share her approach to medicine, which balances the holistic approach to health with an appreciation for the life-saving intervention that may be necessary (hopefully rarely) from traditional medicine. Plus I think she's a good writer and I appreciate the little history lessons she puts in her books. (I didn't know that Louis Pastuer developed a vaccine for rabies---which may have killed more people than it helped.) More to come on this subject after I finish the book...

Thanks to Carol for sending me this great website: Plastic Water Bottles. If you are at all concerned about plastics, I suggest you look it over. It confirmed my concern about plastic baby bottles, and I am on a quest for glass now more than ever. Not that I'll need many.

And then there is all this hullabaloo about plastic and toxic chemicals in baby mattresses: 5 Problems with Baby Mattresses. Which, I really don't like to go overboard on these things, but this article on the Holistic Pediatric Association website does have a good point: "Babies and toddlers spend 10-14 hours a day sleeping and playing on a baby mattress." But I don't know about the price of the pure cotton mattresses out there. I'll have to see if I can find a deal somewhere.

Finally, I finished the Ezzos' Infant Way guide, and I was slight surprised to find it did not (in my opinion) promote hyper scheduling the way many of their critics have claimed. However, I did find it slightly silly at times. While I agree with them that "Attachment Parenting" is not the answer, and admittedly I am no medical expert, I took issue with their main reason for harping on the "womb-and-birth-trauma" theory that AP supposedly overcomes. They say, "More likely, newborns have zero memory of birth, let alone the ability to recall anxiety that is specific to the experience. Memory function and synapse development depend on the brain receiving highly oxygenated blood which comes from breathing. Breathing cannot begin until the lungs inflate, which occurs after, not during birth" (p. 43). And do they not realize that the baby is getting plenty of oxygen from me through the umbilical cord? They just lost my respect with that statement. Sure AP is ridiculous. But how about combating the theory with scriptural principles that birth is natural and the whole process was created by God rather than relying on controversial medical information. (After researching it more, I found that infant memory is highly debated, but the latest research shows that it's definitely there and the idea that infants have little or no memory is actually an antiquated idea.)

registry

Hurray! I finished the baby registry today. It's tough going through all those baby things because there's so much you don't need! Now I can't wait for the garage sales to start popping up in the Lynchburg News & Advance. Finding all those deals is going to be so much fun.

Target or Target.com
NickisDiapers.com (free shipping on almost all registered items)
Amazon.com

I registered for a lot of baby books because books are important to me. If you have any suggestions to add to my book want list, I'd love to hear them.

twenty weeks, 5 days

Whew! I finally did my pregnancy Pilates video, and what a work-out! I was surprised to find that the leg work-out got me more than the abs.

Since we found out that Baby Mann is a boy, I have been a tiny bit sad that I will have to keep waiting for the little dresses, hair barrettes, and the pink-pink-pink until another time. This despite the fact that I always preferred a boy for my first-born. I didn't realize how much time I had actually spent thinking about those girly things---even pierced ears. But now that we do know, I'm feeling much more focused (if still unexcited about any name in particular), and I'm excited to prepare for the world of toy guns, sports, and dump trucks ahead. I always did have more fun playing cops and robbers than house. I guess I would conclude that little girls are sweet, but boys are more fun.

I'm still waiting for the infamous food cravings and hunger to hit. I really don't think I've experienced it, although I did eat a whole jar of pepperocinis this week in one sitting. Then again, I don't think that's something totally out of the ordinary for me.

strollers and car seats

You know, I really like the cute little blue and green polka dots on this website. If only they made a stroller in that pattern. I have spent soooo much time researching strollers---or more specifically, strollers and car seats because I have my heart set on getting a "travel system." (Travel System: Infant car seat snaps into stroller or stroller can be used by itself at about 6 or 7 months old. This eliminates moving the baby when sleeping from car seat to stroller.) There are so many features I want. Car seat fits on a shopping cart, adjustable/rotating canopy, light weight and durable aluminum frame, "ergonomic handle” on the infant seat, adjustable handle bar, highly rated on safety, in a gender neutral pattern I like (for future babies), stroller folds up vertically, easy access to storage basket, stroller reclines fully, good turning radius, etc. I feel like I am shopping for a car!

Right now I think I have to settle for Baby Trend's Grey Mist travel system. It has some of the most important features I like. It was only one of two car seats to pass a Consumer Report's crash test at 70 mph. This does make the car seat a bit heavier, but safety is more important to me... And I could use a little more muscle tone in the arms. (It turns out that CR had to retract the story because car seats are apparently rated for travel at approximately 50 mph or less, which I find sad because we all drive on the expressway. Even on the revised report, CR still gave it their "best buy" recommendation because it's priced very competitively.)

I like the fabric of the Grey Mist. It is a bit masculine, but I think it will still work for a future baby girl (I'd love to hear your honest comments on this). The "ergonomic" triangle handle on the infant seat is a must to me! Only Even-Flo makes another handle like it, but Even-Flo has nothing else to recommend their brand to me. After seeing all my friends with babies carrying around their infant seats everywhere they go, I think the handle is probably more important than the weight (they're ALL heavy with a baby in them after all). I pretty much ruled out Graco's SnugRide infant seats because of the handle, even though that was the only other car seat to pass the CR test at 70 mpg… So, I come back again to the Grey Mist… Which is only getting a disappointing 3.5 star rating on Target's website because it turns out that the awesome ergonomic handle on the infant seat is difficult to adjust. ::sigh:: This is so difficult.

By the way, I did find the perfect travel system, that I couldn’t have designed any better myself. It’s the Italian made Peg Perego Skate---I would call it the Porche of strollers. http://en.pegperegoskate.com/ ...It’s $900. Yeah, enough said. I never should have even tempted myself by looking.

It's a BOY!

This is just amazing! We were able to get our 2nd ultrasound on DVD! You can actually see Baby Mann moving. (Watch for one part right after the tech labels his nasal bone where Baby Mann takes his hand and puts it on top of his head... Very cute.)

So far I've only been successful in ripping and uploading the first 7 or 8 minutes. The very beginning is good because you can see him moving around, but the last part is very cute because you see a lot of movements of arms and legs. The tech practically had to chase him around to get the views she needed (and noted that a lot of activity signals a healthy baby). She said everything looks great and is right on schedule... Including both baby's weight and mine. Hurray!

nineteen weeks, 4 days

I really don't have any terribly exciting news, but I'm just so excited about our 2nd ultrasound next Monday that I had to post something! I am practically counting down the hours. Many have asked us why we don't want to be surprised... But this IS a big surprise! We don't know and we are going to be surprised on Monday! (I think that's better than being surprised on "labor day" so we have time to plan.)

Baby continues to move around more and more. (Or at least I feel it more and more.) A few weeks ago it was faint and infrequent. Now the movements are much more distinguishable. I almost always feel movements when I lay down to sleep and when driving, but that might just be because I'm sitting still and can better detect them. Either that or we have a night owl who likes cars on our hands. :)

cloth diapers

When Dustin first brought up cloth diapers, I think I probably gave him a very funny look. Of course, I should have listened. As it turns out, I am really quite excited to try cloth diapers. The "technology" has come about a million miles since I was helping Mom (I mean Grandma) change Jenna's diapers. (Wow, that was a long time ago but it seems like yesterday!) And it's so much better for Baby. Look at these cute little diapers! The only issue is whether it's really that economical, considering we have to pay $1 to run a load of laundry at our apartment. And the better technology has a price, you know.

seventeen weeks, 4 days

I have entered into the great debate. How fascinating that so many people feel so strongly about whether you need to breastfeed your baby on a strict schedule in order to encourage...What's a good word, order? Or discipline?... Or else let your baby tell you when he needs to eat, which also helps to properly regulate the milk supply. I guess it is pretty important. While I'm sure that the Ezzos have plenty of good to say, I'm convinved (at the moment) that their take on scheduled feedings is incorrect. While I don't discount everything they say, I got quite a kick out of the point below, made by a pastor (?) in Philadelphia:

However, in support of letting children cry themselves to sleep, the Ezzos say, “God is not sitting on His throne waiting to jump up at our every cry, trying to prove that He loves us.” They also cite Matthew 27:46: “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” Using that verse to tell you when to pick up a crying baby is not merely nonsense; it is sacrilege.
http://www.tenth.org/wowdir/wow1998-04-05.htm

sixteen weeks, 4 days

Yesterday I had my first "centering" meeting. It's a program I opted to go through that takes the place of most of my prenatal visits with the midwife. I think I'm going to enjoy it. While most of what they cover in the first couple of classes I have already studied in depth (nutrition, exercise, what you can't eat, pain meds, etc.) it will start to get very interesting when they start to talk about the actual procedures the midwives and hospital use/allow. Those are things the books can't tell you, and they are usually pretty important. (Things such as, Can the baby room-in after birth? How may wires and gadgets can I opt out of in order to stay mobile during labor? When are you going to want to induce me? etc.) A big plus is really getting to know all three midwives, one of which will be at the labor, depending who's on call. It's a very relaxed atmosphere and everyone was very friendly.

I think I might have felt the baby move today for the first time. I know it's a little early for a first time mom---I definitely wasn't expecting it. But it was quite an extraordinary feeling. I haven't felt anything since though. It felt like four little punches and a somersault. We'll see if it's just a false alarm or I start to feel more baby in the near future!

2nd trimester

Wow! Time flies. Tomorrow will be the official start of the second trimester at 14 weeks. My body/Baby is changing accordingly. It does seem like my belly has "popped" all of a sudden, and I only have one pair of pants left that I can button.

A big plus is that my energy is picking up quite a bit. Walking up and down the stairs with a laundry basket doesn't quite seem like the marathon it once did. I've also been taking advantage of the great weather here to get outside and walk a couple miles each day right after work. While 18" of snow were piling up back home, it was 74 degrees here in VA. Yesterday I got a special treat---Dustin and I went for a walk together, enjoyed a beautiful sunset, and found an absolutely amazing view overlooking the James River and the Blue Ridge mountains about 1/4 to 1/2 mile away from our apartment, down a little side street we had never explored before. Quite frankly, it was more beautiful than any of the scenic overlooks from the stretch of the Blue Ridge parkway that we explored last fall.

The only thing I'm not enjoying thus far is that about two weeks ago I started getting headaches. Last Sunday and yesterday evening I was nearly incapacitated. Other times, it's just a dull ache. At first, I thought it was because of caffeine (which usually causes any headache I get). However, I've since ruled that out since yesterday I had my usual cup of tea with breakfast. Sleep helps, but doesn't seem to completely cure it.

Here's the latest bizarre trivia I've learned while reading/researching pregnancy and nutrition: A full grown man will die from eating a polar bear liver because it has such a high concentration of Vitamin A in it. So don't go and eat any polar bear livers!

twelve weeks, 6 days

This is really an amazing journey that God has placed us on. Already, I am learning what a full-time job motherhood can be. Wanting the best for our little one, I have spent many hours researching and learning about how to best care for Baby Mann. I have so much to learn! I am particularly thankful for family and friends, their experience, and their willingness to answer all my questions and talk with me.

One thing that has been particularly challenging for me is the tug-of-war I'm in from the traditional medical establishment and those who take a more natural approach to childbirth. I have learned more about bacteria, human anatomy, and health insurance than I ever wanted to know. (Did you know that the "six-pack" muscle actually splits in two as the pregnancy belly expands?!)

The biggest concern that I'm dealing with right now is the fact that (according to my doctor's office) I "must" get pumped full of antibiotics during labor in the event that I test positive for Group B Strep, a bacteria that grows naturally in about 10% to 30% of pregnant women. Even though I only have this relatively small chance of testing positive, it's still been consuming much of my thought and research. You see, I am inclined to view antibiotics as a last-resort measure for a sick person, rather than a preventative treatment! I was disappointed at the response of my nurse-midwife when I asked her about opting out of this treatment, who looked me in the eye and said very seriously, "Most babies die from GBS." I responded that, well, I hadn't researched it enough and we left it at that.

As it turns out, only 0.5% to 2% of babies born to GBS-positive mothers NOT treated with antibiotics even get infected. Of that number, only 6% die (from blood infection, meningitis, or pneumonia). That means that 3 out of 10,000 babies born to GBS-positive mothers NOT treated with antibiotics will die. I don't think that even comes close to "most." Furthermore, there are other risk factors, which I probably will not have, that by far increase the risk of the baby being infected by GBS, whether I test positive or not (premature, poor hygiene, etc.). In addition, studies have shown that while antibiotics have worked fairly effectively (though not perfectly) to reduce the number of baby GBS infections, infection from other dangerous bacteria, such as E. coli, have increased. Many of these other bacteria have developed antibiotic-resistant strains since the introduction of this preventative antibiotic treatment during labor.

I am under the impression that this preventative treatment has become so common because of a group that arose in the '90s to specifically raise awareness of GBS infection in babies. How many other minute risks, bacterias, and viruses are there out there that aren't being addressed in the manner of GBS simply because there isn't a group spreading antibiotic propaganda? I have to admit that this whole experience has caused me to question everything the doctor's office tells me and also makes me wonder what other scare tactics they may use to try and induce me, do a C-section, use pain medications or any other number of things I wish to avoid. If I test positive, it will be a difficult decision. Meanwhile, I'm just praying the test will be negative and am planning a supplemental health regimen of vitamin C, garlic, and other goodies.

So you can see why I say being a mom is already a full time job for me. I feel like the search for truth is endless. I could go on about why I think antibiotics are unhealthy, but I don't want to bore you too much!

I did have an appointment last Thursday, where I met the midwife and had a general check-up (for my own health). I also got to hear Baby Mann's heartbeat! Despite the comment from the midwife, hearing our little one's heartbeat made the whole appointment seem great, of course! I really can't wait until I'm 20 weeks, when we get our 2nd ultrasound. I'm already counting down the days! Meanwhile, I've got some pregnancy Pilates video to do, so I'd better get going. I'd love to hear your comments!

http://www.mothering.com/articles/pregnancy_birth/birth_preparation/group-b.html

baby likes hot chocolate

Dustin has a theory: Because certain foods/smells seem to make me feel sick (coffee seems to be the biggest one, closely followed by hot dogs), it may be because the baby does not like those foods. So I think it works both ways. For example, the other day, Dustin walked into the kitchen and asked, "Where did all that hot chocolate go?" I simply replied that the baby really likes Daddy's hot chocolate.

first ultrasound January 9

welcome! 9 weeks, 2 days

Mom thought it would be a good idea to keep a pregnancy journal. So being the generation-Y, raised-on-computers, techie-wanna-be that I am, I decided to start a blog! This way, I hope you will all get to know Baby Mann and help Dustin and I welcome our precious first-born into the world. (And yes, the first words out of the ultrasound tech's mouth were, "Well, I only see one!") Praise the Lord, she also went on to tell us that everything looked great. The baby had a terrific heart rate, which was amazing to hear, and all is developing according to schedule. The official due date is August 11. (Another easy birth date to remember at the annual Carter reunion.)

"And these words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart; and you shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up." Deuteronomy 6:6-7